Social Communication
Social communication is the ability to use verbal and nonverbal language appropriately in social interactions, including understanding context, tone, and unspoken rules of conversation.
Why social communication challenges teens
Social communication requires coordinating multiple skills simultaneously while navigating complex peer dynamics and digital communication norms.
Common social communication struggles:
• Monopolizing conversations with special interests
• Missing sarcasm or implied meanings
• Interrupting or talking over others
• Misreading facial expressions and body language
• Using overly formal or informal language
• Difficulty with back-and-forth conversation flow
These challenges often intensify in group settings or stressful social situations.
You're not alone
If your teen gives long lectures about their interests while missing others' boredom cues, or takes everything literally despite obvious sarcasm, these are common developmental challenges. Research shows social communication skills continue developing through early adulthood. Digital communication has created new challenges, as teens must navigate both face-to-face and online social rules. With practice and support, these skills improve significantly.
What it looks like day to day
Student
Your teen responds to "How was your day?" with either one word or a 20-minute monologue, struggling with appropriate response length.
Parent
You notice your teen's friends exchange confused looks when your teen misses obvious social cues or changes topics abruptly.
Tiny steps to try
- 1
Turn-taking practice
Use timer games during family conversations. Everyone gets equal talking time to practice reciprocal communication.
- 2
Emotion charades
Practice reading and expressing emotions through facial expressions and body language during family game time.
- 3
Story telling rounds
Take turns adding to stories, teaching narrative flow and listening skills simultaneously.
- 4
Video modeling
Record successful social interactions (with permission) to review and celebrate what worked well.
- 5
Communication scripts
Develop templates for common interactions like greetings, requests, and apologies to reduce cognitive load.
References
Adams, C. (2005). Social communication intervention for school-age children: Rationale and description. Seminars in Speech and Language, 26(3), 181-188.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Is poor social communication a sign of autism?
While social communication challenges are part of autism diagnostic criteria, many neurotypical teens also struggle with these skills. Factors like ADHD, anxiety, limited social experience, or simply being introverted can affect social communication. Focus on skill-building rather than labels. If concerns persist, consult a speech-language pathologist who specializes in pragmatic language.
How do I correct social communication mistakes without crushing confidence?
Focus on teaching, not correcting. Use "we" language: "We usually wait for pauses before speaking." Practice skills during low-stakes family time rather than correcting in social situations. Celebrate improvements specifically: "You asked great follow-up questions today!" Build on strengths while gently addressing challenges privately.
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